What is the Triad of Self Really?

The Triad of Self: Your Blueprint for Growth

The Triad of Self is a complete, three-part system designed to illuminate the powerful forces that shape who you are by revealing the dynamic interplay between your Temperament, your Character, and your Personality

The three parts are:

Temperament (Your Innate Nature): The fundamental, inborn core of your nervous system. These are your natural energy levels, emotional intensity, and responsiveness—the innate, unchangeable traits you were born with.
Character (Your Internal Morals): The internal moral, ethical, and value-based framework you commit to. This includes your desires, internal values, and principles—what you choose to hold as true and important.
Personality (Your Outward Expression): The external, observable style you develop to interact with the world. These are the visible actions, behaviors, and social habits you consistently use to manage life.

The Interconnected Flow

The true power of this model is not just in how the layers influence each other, but in measuring the degree of Flow (Alignment) or Friction (Misalignment) that exists between the traits across the three layers.

Flow is the measure of Alignment; it means that your natural tendencies (Temperament), your chosen values (Character), and your outward actions (Personality) are working in a cohesive, mutually reinforcing direction.

Friction is the measure of Misalignment; it means there is an internal battle where one layer is resisting or working against another. This misalignment can lead to internal struggle, confusion, and the feeling of "not being true to yourself."

Temperament → Character: Your nature creates a Flow (natural ease) or Friction (natural challenge) for developing certain virtues.
Character → Personality: Your values create a Flow (natural ease) or Friction (natural challenge) for developing certain actions
Personality → Temperament: Your consistent habits can actually train or condition your underlying nervous system (Temperament) over time, completing the loop and creating a natural Flow or Friction within. (Your innate born traits still exist, but may be silenced)

Information Pages

For more information on what the Triad of Self™ is and how it came about you can visit the information pages here.
For more information on the MBTI you can visit those pages here.
For more information on the Enneagram you can visit those pages here.
For more information on the Big Five you can visit those pages here.
For more information on Human Design you can visit those pages here.
For more information on high functioning autism you can visit those pages here.
For more information on ADHD and AUDHD you can visit those pages here.
For more information on masking you can visit those pages here.

The Triad of Self™ fully believes in what these programs are offering and what they are capable of, however, Triad of Self™ concentrates on what is lacking within these programs and has created a way to bridge the gap.

Temperament

Your Nature

The fundamental, inborn core of your nervous system. These are the energy levels, emotional intensity, and responsiveness you were born with.

This is who you are at your biological core—the raw material you start with.

Character

Your Morals

The moral, ethical, and value-based framework you actively commit to over time.

This layer represents Agency—the virtues and principles you build.

This is who you become through influences within and outside influences.

Personality

Your Actions

The external, observable style you develop to interact with the world. These are the visible habits, social strategies, and behavioral patterns you consistently use to manage life.

This layer represents Adaptation—the methods you use to navigate your environment.

This is how you show up in the world—the face you present to others.

Temperament → Character

The Foundational Link

Your inborn nature creates a psychological foundation that either pushes or resists the development of certain Character traits.

What This Means:

Natural Flow (Easy Development): Your innate tendencies make it easy and authentic to commit to a certain Character trait. The virtue feels like a natural extension of your nature.
Natural Friction (Conscious Effort Required): Your innate tendencies actively work against a Character trait you are trying to adopt. Developing this virtue creates a deep, constant internal struggle. Your core self resists the value you are trying to live by, leading to a sense of internal conflict.

Your Agency is Key: You are the final architect of your Character. Knowing this natural flow simply gives you a map to build your best self more effectively.

Character → Personality

The Blueprint for Behavior

Your chosen Character traits—the virtues and commitments you uphold—naturally guide which external behaviors and social strategies you find useful, and which you must actively reject.

What This Means:

Natural Flow (Habitual Alignment): Your actions (Personality) are an authentic expression of your internal values (Character). The habit serves as an effective, honest tool for living out your commitment.
Natural Friction (Strategic Rejection): Your actions contradict or undermine your core values. This friction manifests as inauthentic behavior or a feeling of hypocrisy. You are doing something that is fundamentally misaligned with what you have chosen to believe.

Example: A commitment to Honesty naturally flows into Direct communication, while Fairness creates friction with Confrontational behavior.

Personality → Temperament

The Self-Conditioning Loop

This link completes the cycle, measuring the long-term impact of what you do (Personality) on who you are (Temperament) through the power of neuroplasticity.

The Power of Consistent Action:

Flow (Positive Conditioning): Your consistent actions reinforce your natural tendencies or create new, beneficial neural pathways. This strengthens your innate core or makes chosen virtuous actions easier and more sustainable over time.
Friction (The Double-Edged Sword): When you consistently choose actions that work against your innate Temperament, you lessen the intensity of that inborn resistance. However, if these actions are maladaptive, they can create a powerful, negative default pathway, overriding and silencing a prior, more desirable innate trait, leading to a feeling of being constantly drained or exhausted.
The Original Core Remains: Your innate wiring never fully disappears, but your sustained habits determine which pathways become the *default* setting of your core self.

This is the ultimate expression of your personal agency: Your personality determines not just what you do, but who you become at your core. With the right tools and knowledge, you have the power to change the outcome and channel the strength you have used to maintain who you have become into becoming who you want to be.

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